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How to Become a Hotwife:

The Teaser Test

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Learning How to Become a Hotwife

Learning how to become a hotwife is a bit more involved than it sounds. It’s not just about screwing other guys and letting your husband watch or hear about it.

One of the biggest challenges in learning how to be a hotwife involves managing your relationship and making sure that your husband can handle the reality of his fantasy.

It’s this last point that we will focus on in this article – how to make sure he that he wants what he says he wants.

Imagine This Scenario….

Your husband finally confesses his desire for you to have sex with other men. He desperately desires for you to learn how to become a hotwife.

And no matter how hard you try, you just can’t bring yourself to believe that he really wants it. You’re worried about hurting him emotionally if you go through with it.

In retrospect, this was a red flag for both of us. It’s one of the reasons that we came up with the idea of a “conflict word” to help let her know when I am potentially out of control. The next day she called me from work to say she was going to fuck him again. I went berserk. The anxiety and worry about their intimate feelings was too much. I flip-flopped again. That was the night she told me the whole thing had been a ruse. I couldn’t decide if I was relieved or disappointed. She had seen all of my reactions and was able to determine how I would handle the real life situation. This is one of the most helpful things you can do when you’re learning how to become a hotwife. We learned lessons that would have been much more painful and destructive in real life. The Teaser Test is the best way I know of to get a solid sense of how your husband will respond to the longterm effects of cuckolding without putting your relationship in any danger. It is also a great way to play with cuckolding in-between lovers or if the reality is simply not feasible for you. Another benefit of the Teaser test is that I never know if a situation is real or not for several weeks. It keeps things edgy and exciting. So before you jump into the deep end of the pool, I highly suggest putting your man through the Teaser Test.

You can see how aroused he is just talking about it, but how do you know it’s not all in his head?

How do you know whether or not he will resent you, lose respect for you, and even want to leave you if it really happens?

The truth is that you can’t know because fantasy is never reality, but what if I told you there was a way to “test reality” inside of fantasy?

What if you could know with 100% certainty, exactly how he would feel, react, and respond to the real thing?

I’m going to show you how to do exactly that. It’s the ultimate advantage in learning how to become a hotwife.

Welcome to the Teaser Test.

This test involves “pretending” that the actual fantasy occurred in a way that your husband believes is completely real. There’s more to it than just “pretending” so read on to make sure you’ve got the particulars.

You’re learning how to become a hotwife, and as part of that training, you’re going to put on the performance of a lifetime for him. And as a big bonus, you’ll get to see his genuine reaction to being in a cuckolding relationship.

If you don’t like the idea of deceiving your husband, simply ask him if you can “pretend” to do something (at some point in the future) to turn him on. Try not to elaborate too much and be vague when answering.  You want the Teaser Test to be a surprise.

Most cuckolds will be an immediate and enthusiastic yes to this request and you will have permission to run the test at any time you want to advance in learning how to become a hotwife.

In order for this test to be effective, it’s important that you keep the story realistic and that you avoid giving him details that he can verify.  You’ll want the fake encounter to be with someone he doesn’t know at a location he can’t follow up on.

The idea is to make him believe everything is actually happening. If he can investigate your claims and prove them false, the test won’t work and you still won’t have the information you need to make a smart choice.

For people who have never actually engaged in the realization of a cuckold fantasy, the reality can be…shocking and you don’t want to be playing Russian Roulette with your relationship.

playing-russian-roulette

Ok, so there are a few items you’ll definitely want to include in the story you’re going to craft for your husband, which I will cover next.

  • The name of your lover (someone he doesn’t know)
  • How you met
  • What he looks like
  • Where and when you had sex
  • What you did during sex (get juicy with the details and be explicit)
  • How you liked it (the more you like it, the better he will like it)

You’ll want to include ALL the juicy details so make sure you spend some time thinking about what you want to relay instead of jumping into the test unprepared.

  • What does he like to talk about?
  • What really turns him on?
  • Has he relayed a particular fantasy or preference in the past? If so, embellish on it.

Give him all the juicy details and watch his reaction.

The point here is not to be mean or cruel.  In fact, we’re trying to avoid being mean or cruel by ensuring that he actually wants what he “thinks” he wants before going through with anything.

During your training on how to become a hotwife, you’ll want to be keenly observing his reactions to everything you say and and do.

  • Is he insanely turned on or did he go pale as a sheet?
  • Is he asking for all the details in a hungry voice or is he quietly asking if you REALLY did it?
  • Is he physically aroused or emotionally stricken?

Alright, so now that you have an overview of what makes up the Teaser Test, let’s dive into an example to make it a bit more clear.

THE TEASER TEST IN ACTION

If you’re learning how to become a hotwife, there are three primary things you need to grasp.

  1. The reason he’s drawn to the cuckold fantasy,
  2. Why it turns him on, and
  3. How he will react to the reality of cuckolding.

It is this last point that the Teaser Test addresses,

Let me show you the power of the Teaser Test by illustrating exactly how my wife did it to me and what it revealed for both of us.

I had been begging my wife to cuckold me for almost 5 years and I secretly didn’t think she ever would actually do it.

man-begging-woman

One day she came home from work, gave me a kiss, and started making dinner. It was just another normal day.

Then, out of the blue, she very casually said:

“Oh honey, I forget to mention it when I came home, but I let someone fuck my brains out at work today.”

She didn’t skip a beat and  my heart was immediately in my throat.

“You did what,” I said?

She turned, looked me straight in the eyes, and grinned.

“I let someone ravage my body on my desk at work today. It was some of the best sex I’ve ever had.”

I was in shock. I  literally couldn’t speak for 10 minutes. I couldn’t believe that she’d actually done it.

The Flop Flop

I kept alternating between extreme arousal and complete shock.

changing-mind

The initial reaction men have to the Teaser Test is not always what you might expect based on their own admissions. Sometimes it can be quite different.

I couldn’t get the visual out of my head. I was so turned on I thought I would burst. This immediate turn-on should be super easy to spot in anyone with the cuckold fantasy.

I begged my wife to tell me all about it and she provided me with every detail I could imagine.

Ladies, the details make all the difference.  They are an essential component to the cuckold’s turn-on and the fuel for his desire.

My arousal was unmistakable and if your man isn’t all over you when you relay the details of your fictional adventure, it’s a serious red flag that cuckolding may not be for him.

A few days later, I had a thousand questions running through my head. The extreme arousal had faded enough to allow some clear and logical thinking to occur.

The arousal was still there, but it was low enough that I could start to feel a jumble of other emotions like anxiety, uncertainty, fear, and even jealousy.

This is common, which is why I recommend running the test for at least 3 weeks.  Once the intense arousal wears off, it becomes common for many cuckolds to experience extreme jealousy or shame.

The degree to which he experiences those emotions and how they affect him are the crux of the test.

man-acting-anxious

Now, learning how to become a hotwife entails really tuning in at this critical moment. This is the most important part of the test because it determines whether or cuckolding will help or harm your relationship.

Some men know that unpleasant emotions are integral to their turn on and make a concerted effort to deal with them constructively. Other men may find those unpleasant emotions much stronger than their arousal and impossible to live with.

The fear of losing you or of you preferring someone else is simply too much for some men to handle.

I mentioned this earlier, but while you’re learning how to become a hotwife, consider running the test for a minimum of three weeks to really gauge his naked emotional response.

Let me illustrate why this is important.

When my wife first ran this test on me, I was so horny for the first 3-4 days that I couldn’t think of anything else.  I was horny 24/7.

The sexual high can last for weeks, which is why I suggest a minimum of three weeks to gauge an accurate and representative emotional response.

It wasn’t until almost the end of the first week that I started to feel a lot of anxiety and doubt whenever she went to work.

The reality of her having sex with someone at work everyday began to sink in. And even though it still turned me on, I was starting to feel uncomfortable fairly often.

One of the things I have always wanted to avoid is the development of an intimate relationship between my wife and her bull.

As time went on in the Teaser Test, my wife strategically dropped hints that her external relationship had a lot of potential to go into the realm of romantic intimacy.

When I asked my wife about it she admitted it was a possibility and that her bull had said he wanted more than sex as well.

That’s when I lost it.

This was a great move on her part.  Everything was fictional, but when I asked about something that bothered me, she made sure to always answer in the positive to explore my reactions.

Why?

So she could learn how I would react and handle that situation.

My arousal had taken a back seat to my discomfort. We did a lot of talking and ultimately decided that I was not comfortable with the direction her relationship was headed.

I realized I needed to be present during her escapades in order to be able to handle the situation.  I would never have known that without the test, and when you’re learning how to become hotwife, you’ll need the same assurance.

The test taught me something else extremely valuable as well.

The arousal was so strong that I eventually began to flip flop on my decisions. I was constantly alternating between “yes” and “no” on major decisions.

In retrospect, this was a red flag for both of us.  It’s one of the reasons that we came up with the idea of a “conflict word” to help let her know when I am potentially out of control and liable to break my own boundaries.

The next day she called me from work to say she was going to fuck him again.  I went berserk. The anxiety and worry about their intimate feelings was too much.

I flip-flopped again.

That was the night she told me the whole thing had been a ruse.  I couldn’t decide if I was relieved or disappointed.

She had seen all of my reactions and was able to determine how I would handle the real life situation.

This is one of the most helpful things you can do when you’re learning how to become a hotwife.

We learned lessons that would have been much more painful and destructive in real life. The Teaser Test is the best way I know of to get a solid sense of how your husband will respond to the long-term effects of cuckolding without putting your relationship in any danger.

It is also a great way to play with cuckolding in-between lovers or if the reality is simply not feasible for you.

Another benefit of the Teaser test is that he never knows if a situation is real or not until you tell him, which   keeps things edgy and exciting.

So before you jump into the deep end of the pool, I highly suggest putting your man through the Teaser Test and making sure he can swim.

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Ben Steel Founder of Cuckold Relationship

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